Comments for Waking Vixen http://www.wakingvixen.com Audacia Ray's Adventures in Smart Sex Culture Wed, 20 Aug 2008 19:16:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 Comment on I Meet the Business End of Citibank’s Anti-Adult Business Policy by Ell http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/19/i-meet-the-business-end-of-citibanks-anti-adult-business-policy/#comment-54906 Ell Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:25:47 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/19/i-meet-the-business-end-of-citibanks-anti-adult-business-policy/#comment-54906 It's a pain, but banks are in the main risk averse, if they think you're in a business that poses them some kind of risk that's pretty much the end of the story. They may or may not have a moral issue with "adult". I'm glad for you the WM has a more open approach. It’s a pain, but banks are in the main risk averse, if they think you’re in a business that poses them some kind of risk that’s pretty much the end of the story. They may or may not have a moral issue with “adult”. I’m glad for you the WM has a more open approach.

]]> Comment on The Dilemma of Jefferson: My Dissenting Voice by annoyed http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/05/the-dilemma-of-jefferson-my-dissenting-voice/#comment-54903 annoyed Wed, 20 Aug 2008 12:40:06 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/05/the-dilemma-of-jefferson-my-dissenting-voice/#comment-54903 <i>2) IN New York, Parents are entitled to legal defense for free in family court and custody battles if they need it and are indigent (cannot afford a lawyer themselves, or run out of funds for a lawyer).</i> Jefferson begged for funds to get his kids Christmas presents. He begged for funds again when he was evicted. Maybe he isn't indigent. OK. If he isn't how come he had to beg for money to pay for christmas presents for his kids. If he was indigent why is he now begging for money for lawyers. Why did he claim he needed money to pay for a court appointed guardian? Why didn't he post and explain exactly where the money is needed and where it will go. Lies. Priorities! WHEEEEEE! Save the date! Party on August 27! Send me money! Please. This is about children. 2) IN New York, Parents are entitled to legal defense for free in family court and custody battles if they need it and are indigent (cannot afford a lawyer themselves, or run out of funds for a lawyer).

Jefferson begged for funds to get his kids Christmas presents. He begged for funds again when he was evicted.

Maybe he isn’t indigent. OK. If he isn’t how come he had to beg for money to pay for christmas presents for his kids.

If he was indigent why is he now begging for money for lawyers.

Why did he claim he needed money to pay for a court appointed guardian?

Why didn’t he post and explain exactly where the money is needed and where it will go.

Lies.

Priorities! WHEEEEEE! Save the date! Party on August 27! Send me money!

Please. This is about children.

]]> Comment on The Dilemma of Jefferson: My Dissenting Voice by an anon http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/05/the-dilemma-of-jefferson-my-dissenting-voice/#comment-54886 an anon Wed, 20 Aug 2008 08:10:11 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/05/the-dilemma-of-jefferson-my-dissenting-voice/#comment-54886 If New York's threshold for "indigent" is anything like it is where I live, then it's entirely possible that Jefferson doesn't qualify for free representation. To qualify here, you need to be down to almost no money in savings or property -- which isn't terribly conducive to demonstrating that you can shelter, feed and clothe your kids. If New York’s threshold for “indigent” is anything like it is where I live, then it’s entirely possible that Jefferson doesn’t qualify for free representation. To qualify here, you need to be down to almost no money in savings or property — which isn’t terribly conducive to demonstrating that you can shelter, feed and clothe your kids.

]]> Comment on I Meet the Business End of Citibank’s Anti-Adult Business Policy by Ellie http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/19/i-meet-the-business-end-of-citibanks-anti-adult-business-policy/#comment-54872 Ellie Wed, 20 Aug 2008 05:04:12 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/19/i-meet-the-business-end-of-citibanks-anti-adult-business-policy/#comment-54872 Ugh! I've definitely heard of credit card companies making merchant accounts very hard to come by for adult businesses. But that is because there truly *is* a higher risk of fraud and charge-backs (usually by the customers, not the businesses). I can't imagine why Citibank wouldn't even open a checking account for you, though. I'm really glad that you showed them you were serious about this by closing your accounts. Not a convenient thing but an important stand to take. Ugh! I’ve definitely heard of credit card companies making merchant accounts very hard to come by for adult businesses. But that is because there truly *is* a higher risk of fraud and charge-backs (usually by the customers, not the businesses). I can’t imagine why Citibank wouldn’t even open a checking account for you, though. I’m really glad that you showed them you were serious about this by closing your accounts. Not a convenient thing but an important stand to take.

]]> Comment on The Dilemma of Jefferson: My Dissenting Voice by Sapphire Graham http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/05/the-dilemma-of-jefferson-my-dissenting-voice/#comment-54868 Sapphire Graham Wed, 20 Aug 2008 03:28:51 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/05/the-dilemma-of-jefferson-my-dissenting-voice/#comment-54868 Funny. I didn't think of Jefferson's Save the Date as save the date for an actual event. I thought that it would be the date that the court was scheduled to make the decision. Fundraiser? Hadn't thought of that...hmmm... Funny. I didn’t think of Jefferson’s Save the Date as save the date for an actual event. I thought that it would be the date that the court was scheduled to make the decision. Fundraiser? Hadn’t thought of that…hmmm…

]]> Comment on The Dilemma of Jefferson: My Dissenting Voice by check the link http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/05/the-dilemma-of-jefferson-my-dissenting-voice/#comment-54837 check the link Tue, 19 Aug 2008 22:07:39 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/05/the-dilemma-of-jefferson-my-dissenting-voice/#comment-54837 Comment two on that thread is pretty interesting too: <i>From: [info]viviane212 Date: August 5th, 2008 02:54 pm (UTC) Thank you for the comment - I've passed it on to Jefferson. </i> I guess Jefferson didn't have time to tell us the good news about free legal representation and the court paying for a guardian. He only found out about on August 5th, after all. Priorities, people! Won't you think of the children? Comment two on that thread is pretty interesting too:

From: [info]viviane212 Date: August 5th, 2008 02:54 pm (UTC)

Thank you for the comment - I’ve passed it on to Jefferson.

I guess Jefferson didn’t have time to tell us the good news about free legal representation and the court paying for a guardian. He only found out about on August 5th, after all. Priorities, people! Won’t you think of the children?

]]> Comment on The Dilemma of Jefferson: My Dissenting Voice by check the link http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/05/the-dilemma-of-jefferson-my-dissenting-voice/#comment-54836 check the link Tue, 19 Aug 2008 21:58:11 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/05/the-dilemma-of-jefferson-my-dissenting-voice/#comment-54836 Comment one at this link seems to know what she's talking about, and lookie-lookie: "the Law Guardian is paid for BY THE STATE, not the parents. If they are telling him otherwise, then someone is being scammed." I'll say. ------------------------------------------- <i>Phil, I want to point out a couple of things here: 1) I had to fight a legal custody battle over my son, where I was being called an unfit parent because I was transgender (not because of the other parent, but by the court *itself*), and I was disabled (by the other parent and the court). I won. I didn't pay out my a** in legal fees. In fact it cost me very little. Shana and I just had to do some research, and put all our ducks in a row. 2) IN New York, Parents are entitled to legal defense for free in family court and custody battles if they need it and are indigent (cannot afford a lawyer themselves, or run out of funds for a lawyer). Now switching lawyers mid-stream is not neccesarily good, but I had to do it (because the one they assigned me originally was a total idiot AND a bigot, and didn't want to represent a transsexual or a lesbian. 3) In New York City especially it is illegal to use questions of sexuality against the parent (unless its something like SM, and only if the child somehow bears witness or is exposed to it). I'm sorry this person is going through this, this is something I have been dealing with over the past few years, but in New York, the court is not going to take total custody away from a parent unless they are totally unfit, and even then, its EXTREMELY difficult (a person can have a founded (true) ACS/CPS report on them and still have unsupervised visitations and shared legal responsibility). I managed to fight almost the same custody case in an unfriendly legal setting (Nassau County is EXTREMELY conservative, without financial backing. There are some things he can do (or maybe he has) like file counterclaims for custody the other way (effectively making both of them plaintiffs) The other thing is - the Law Guardian is paid for BY THE STATE, not the parents. If they are telling him otherwise, then someone is being scammed. Again, I'm sorry anyone has to go through this, it is an extremely trying experience, but the best thing to have is someone who knows the ins and outs of the NY Family Court and Legal System (Superior Court) from a parent's perspective (not a lawyers) on their side to ask questions and get support. I didn't have that, but I wish I had. Shana and I had to do all kinds of research and work, and practically represent ourselves, where someone with the knowledge we came across would have been invaluable and saved us a lot of time and energy. If you know him, and want to pass on Shana's contact info (she's more likely to get email, not having to sift through hundreds of emails a day), go ahead.</i> Comment one at this link seems to know what she’s talking about, and lookie-lookie:

“the Law Guardian is paid for BY THE STATE, not the parents. If they are telling him otherwise, then someone is being scammed.”

I’ll say.
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Phil, I want to point out a couple of things here:

1) I had to fight a legal custody battle over my son, where I was being called an unfit parent because I was transgender (not because of the other parent, but by the court *itself*), and I was disabled (by the other parent and the court). I won. I didn’t pay out my a** in legal fees. In fact it cost me very little. Shana and I just had to do some research, and put all our ducks in a row.

2) IN New York, Parents are entitled to legal defense for free in family court and custody battles if they need it and are indigent (cannot afford a lawyer themselves, or run out of funds for a lawyer). Now switching lawyers mid-stream is not neccesarily good, but I had to do it (because the one they assigned me originally was a total idiot AND a bigot, and didn’t want to represent a transsexual or a lesbian.

3) In New York City especially it is illegal to use questions of sexuality against the parent (unless its something like SM, and only if the child somehow bears witness or is exposed to it).

I’m sorry this person is going through this, this is something I have been dealing with over the past few years, but in New York, the court is not going to take total custody away from a parent unless they are totally unfit, and even then, its EXTREMELY difficult (a person can have a founded (true) ACS/CPS report on them and still have unsupervised visitations and shared legal responsibility). I managed to fight almost the same custody case in an unfriendly legal setting (Nassau County is EXTREMELY conservative, without financial backing.

There are some things he can do (or maybe he has) like file counterclaims for custody the other way (effectively making both of them plaintiffs)

The other thing is - the Law Guardian is paid for BY THE STATE, not the parents. If they are telling him otherwise, then someone is being scammed.

Again, I’m sorry anyone has to go through this, it is an extremely trying experience, but the best thing to have is someone who knows the ins and outs of the NY Family Court and Legal System (Superior Court) from a parent’s perspective (not a lawyers) on their side to ask questions and get support. I didn’t have that, but I wish I had. Shana and I had to do all kinds of research and work, and practically represent ourselves, where someone with the knowledge we came across would have been invaluable and saved us a lot of time and energy. If you know him, and want to pass on Shana’s contact info (she’s more likely to get email, not having to sift through hundreds of emails a day), go ahead.

]]> Comment on I Meet the Business End of Citibank’s Anti-Adult Business Policy by Rainbow Mind http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/19/i-meet-the-business-end-of-citibanks-anti-adult-business-policy/#comment-54833 Rainbow Mind Tue, 19 Aug 2008 21:02:45 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/19/i-meet-the-business-end-of-citibanks-anti-adult-business-policy/#comment-54833 Haha, Citi the town or porn. Haha, Citi the town or porn.

]]> Comment on I Meet the Business End of Citibank’s Anti-Adult Business Policy by Stacie Adams http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/19/i-meet-the-business-end-of-citibanks-anti-adult-business-policy/#comment-54829 Stacie Adams Tue, 19 Aug 2008 19:40:47 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/19/i-meet-the-business-end-of-citibanks-anti-adult-business-policy/#comment-54829 Funny how they don't have any trouble letting people run up credit card debt to pay for porn. Or anything else for that matter.... "there's some things money can't buy. For ANYTHING ELSE" there's mastercard. They SAY they won't do business in adult, but I am sure a large percentage of the $12 billion annual revenue in porn, some large percent of that is charged on citibank cards. For anyone looking for a great alternative bank that will let you use any atm without a fee (they reimburse you for the other banks' charges), see http://www.newresourcebank.com Funny how they don’t have any trouble letting people run up credit card debt to pay for porn. Or anything else for that matter…. “there’s some things money can’t buy. For ANYTHING ELSE” there’s mastercard.

They SAY they won’t do business in adult, but I am sure a large percentage of the $12 billion annual revenue in porn, some large percent of that is charged on citibank cards.

For anyone looking for a great alternative bank that will let you use any atm without a fee (they reimburse you for the other banks’ charges), see http://www.newresourcebank.com

]]> Comment on I Meet the Business End of Citibank’s Anti-Adult Business Policy by BOINKOLOGY | Citibank: Not A Fan Of Adult Business http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/19/i-meet-the-business-end-of-citibanks-anti-adult-business-policy/#comment-54826 BOINKOLOGY | Citibank: Not A Fan Of Adult Business Tue, 19 Aug 2008 19:00:58 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/2008/08/19/i-meet-the-business-end-of-citibanks-anti-adult-business-policy/#comment-54826 [...] it seems it’s not quite that simple. Friend of Boinkology Audacia Ray recently learned that Citibank won’t do business with the adult industry — or even, it seems, people who write about and tangentially work with the adult industry. [...] […] it seems it’s not quite that simple. Friend of Boinkology Audacia Ray recently learned that Citibank won’t do business with the adult industry — or even, it seems, people who write about and tangentially work with the adult industry. […]

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