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Two years ago, I was entering the homestretch of a four and a half year monogamous relationship. Part of the decline of the relationship - which ended basically because we grew apart - was my gradual realization that I might want something other than a monogamous relationship. I kept this to myself, and I didn’t […]

The more I talk to people about sex in either the theoretical sense or the direct sense, the more I think that all sex and deviant desire is about is just � permission. People seem to have difficulty giving themselves permission to feel the way they feel, lust after what they lust for and get […]

I�m very much a planning and list-making person. But sometimes there are life situations that just can�t have a plan, because each situation is different from the next one.
Unfortunately, when my hypothetical planning centers around a desire to create a workable double life (with many nuances), things get a little sketchy. I am bad at […]

So to put my best foot forward with trying to explain who I am, I’ll rely on some trusty identity shorthand and then expand from there.
I’m a grrl, bisexual, polyamorous, a slut, pervert and nerd.
And now, to put that liberal arts education to work, I’ll deconstruct this a little. Ah, the semantics of identity:
-Grrl: Calling […]

Things haven’t always looked like this - divided. But somehow they are now, and I’m starting to learn a thing or two about the closet.
The thing is: three years ago, I turned my academic (and prurient, lets not forget that) interest in sex/identity/gender and most of all FUCKING into a career. And I’ve been […]