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This is a re-post of a ranty, frustrated post I put up on my Tumblr yesterday afternoon. I feel about 15% less insane than I did yesterday, but I still need fixing. Though I initially posted on Tumblr and tweeted my frustration so this wasn’t all front and center on my “official,” “professional” website - […]

Attending Sex 2.0 gave me lots of things to think about, and I’ve been mulling these things over in my brain a lot since April 12th. The first session I attended was Melissa Gira’s Sex Styles of the Internet Famous, in which there were a number of cute role plays around issues that arise from […]

Writing that last post with the list of posts I dig a lot from the last year got me curious about long-ago Waking Vixen posts (also, yay procrastination!). It’s weird, this blog-writing habit. In many ways, each post can stand on its own, but seeing how all the pieces fit together is pretty fascinating too, […]

Last winter, Dirck and I participated as extras engaged in lewd acts in a foot fetish fantasy piece for the porn company I work for. It was a fun shoot, with hot people and general mayhem all around.
Its taken months to edit this piece, which is our longest to date at about 50 minutes. Last […]

Last night, in a conversation with Dirck’s friend from out of town, I asked the obligatory “How are you enjoying New York?” question. She kind of sighed and said, “Yeah, New York’s pretty awesome.” But then in a lower, more conspiratorial tone, “But I miss my Hitachi Magic Wand.” When Dirck caught wind of this […]

Not the hot sheet hotel, the glorious bookshop! I mean sure, the St. Mark’s Hotel has short stays and a lot of sex worker and perv lore attached to it, but the St. Mark’s Bookshop has an anarchist section.
Last night after a sushi dinner with my friend Jane, we got immersed in bookshop-land. Our original […]

There have been a plethora of articles in the New York Times of late that are all about sex and porn - articles I’ve been reading voraciously. But, though I’ve been thinking about them all, none of them have inspired me to blog like this article in today’s business section - about shoes.

I have the […]

I’ve been dating Dirck for a year and a half, and the last month has been just this side of unbearable for various reasons. This week, however, we started to get back on track towards a workable future for the relationship. One of the things that has been an issue is his relationship with another […]

Two years ago, I was entering the homestretch of a four and a half year monogamous relationship. Part of the decline of the relationship - which ended basically because we grew apart - was my gradual realization that I might want something other than a monogamous relationship. I kept this to myself, and I didn’t […]

The more I talk to people about sex in either the theoretical sense or the direct sense, the more I think that all sex and deviant desire is about is just � permission. People seem to have difficulty giving themselves permission to feel the way they feel, lust after what they lust for and get […]