Living relationships online

Attending Sex 2.0 gave me lots of things to think about, and I’ve been mulling these things over in my brain a lot since April 12th. The first session I attended was Melissa Gira’s Sex Styles of the Internet Famous, in which there were a number of cute role plays around issues that arise from dating within the web 2.0 culture. Such as: what happens when you Twitter about sex with one partner but not another? What if one person demands a recognition of relationship status on Facebook but the other prefers these things to stay private? What if one person in a group outing doesn’t want their name and face on Flickr?

During the session, Melissa joked that maybe the only way to work around these questions is to date someone who doesn’t give a shit about the internet. That’s pretty much what I’ve done. Sure, my guy uses the internet to send email, check out porn, and lurk on a few messageboards, but he could care less about the world of social media. This resistance to social media is simultaneously cute, relieving, and slightly annoying. If there’s something I want him to have a look at, I still have to do the old fashioned thing where I email him a link. I don’t do that with anyone else, except my family.

We’re preparing to send our first fully collaborative project off to the Paris and Berlin Porn Film Festivals (technically, I should be writing a press release instead of this blog post). It should be interesting to see the ways my sweetie’s relationship with Web 2.0 changes as he becomes more fully and visibly a part of the Audacia Ray media machine story. He’ll probably still think it’s all pretty silly.

And yeah, this is a cock-teasing way to let you all know that I’ve been working on a short film. It’s not porn, but it is adult in nature. More info and a trailer to come.