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Foot love

November 30, 2005

It occurred to me recently that I’ve never really written about my love for toes, shoes, stockings and all things leg and foot. Sure, I’ve written about the professional foot sessions here and there, and I’ve mentioned foot play in some of my sex posts, but I’ve never really composed an ode to feet. Perhaps this is because my love for feet has often been encapsulated in the realm of professional sex, perhaps because it’s been a delicately rising crescendo of fetishism, or perhaps I just suck and just have not toed that line (I couldn’t resist).

But anyway, this is a good week to write about foot love, because this Thursday I’ll be talking about my piece in Everything You Know About Sex is Wrong, which is called “My First Fetish, or How I Fought Mediocrity.” The piece is inspired by events of four years ago, when I was but a wee girl of 21, immersed in sexual cultures beyond my imagination while doing research for the then-nascent Museum of Sex, when people would ask me on almost a daily basis what my fetish was, and I had no answer, perhaps partly because I’ve always really enjoyed straight-up fucking with my partners and haven’t been suitably distracted by various kinks (read the book, I swear my piece about this is way funny). In the grand scale of things I still feel like I’m fairly vanilla, but I guess this is all a matter of relativity. Point being, there aren’t specific items I need within my grasp or eye-grasp to get off – but there are things I enjoy. Increasingly, these are of the foot persuasion.

My liking for feet started when I was in high school and a boy licked my toes. I liked it a lot and have been trying to get my partners to do it ever since, with minimal success. In recent years, I’ve been told time and time again that there is a way this whole foot thing works – men like checking out women’s feet and shoes, and women like buying and wearing shoes. Well, I definitely like buying and wearing shoes, but I also like seeing women in sexy footwear (and you know, touching it), because I’m a little pervy like that.

These days I own a whole collection of shoes that have never been walked in in the great outdoors – partly because I wouldn’t be able to get very far in them. My taste in shoes is varied, but also pretty specific. My everyday shoes are of the large and clunky variety - presently I’m pretty obsessed with my Fluevog bondgirl boots. But the no-outdoor play shoes… it’s a different story. I have a variety of platform fetish shoes and stripper type open toed shoes, but recently I’ve been very keen on stilettos, with the heel tucked slightly underneath the shoe and plenty of toe cleavage. As a fetish shoe-drooler, I like shoes that look super uncomfortable and make walking difficult. I am also a big fan of pretty bare feet, and I just love the way a sole looks when it’s all wrinkled from toe-pointing. I could also go on and on about stockings – but suffice to say I don’t have one specific kind I like, I love stockings in all their various glory.

I began to really learn about and enjoy this kink when I started doing professional foot sessions, which I initially thought would be an easy and non-sex kind of sex work. I quickly realized that instead of being merely tolerant of foot fetish sessions, I was definitely into it. This is kind of a confusing thing to confront as a sex worker – sure, it’s excellent to enjoy your work, but it’s weird to be caught unawares. The other tricky part of the whole equation was that I was only experiencing foot fun with my clients, because none of my recreational partners were into it. Although I wasn’t creating a list of to-dos with my clients, I was of course able to choose what I was willing to participate in (yes, I will throw pies at your crotch; no, you cannot throw pies at my face), and led into a kinky world of fun, while getting paid for my trouble. I’m not sure if I would’ve done the exploration I’ve done footwise without getting paid for it, partly because I didn’t know I had it in me, and there certainly wasn’t anyone bringing it out in my personal sex life. Perhaps the paid experience just accelerated the learning curve for me – being exposed to so many desires did make me more interested in exploring my own desires separately from my work life.

Nowadays I actually incorporate foot fun into my recreational sex, and it’s goddamn fabulous. I think I get almost as excited about my partner’s desire for my feet and his interest in my shoe collection as I do about the actual play itself (almost). In a weird way, I’m actually experiencing the very thing my clients were paying for – permission to enjoy and express a kink.

Posted by Dacia at November 30, 2005 01:42 AM

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