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Walking virgin
September 09, 2005
Doing my daily rounds of sites that are linking to me and saying things about me today, I discovered that a Spanish site, Greenshines.com had a bit to say about me this week. My command of Spanish is minimal but proficient enough to get the gist of what was being said. The write-up itself was nice, but then I clicked on “comentarios” and whoa nelly.
Though my Spanish reading-comprehension skills might suck, it didn’t seem like the commenters were bashing my writing (probably they didn’t read much of it, being in English and all) but they had plenty to say about my visage, namely that I’m pale, fat and ugly and should wear a bag over my head.
The best part is when the commenters try to figure out what the significance of “Waking Vixen” is, misread “waking” as “walking” (like some of my linkers do, ahem) and conclude that the name of my website in Spanish would be “Caminado Virgen” - Walking Virgin. Awesome.
At dinner with friends tonight, I excitedly told them all about the hate-fest. One of them looked a little horrified at my glee, and then said that stuff like this is why she could never do what I do - being skewered and criticized for the way I look sounded pretty awful to her. It is kind of awful - but its way more hilarious than awful.
I wouldn’t recommend my life path to most people, but for me, working in the sex industry has been really cathartic as far as improving my self image goes. I give less and less of a shit about the prettiness paradigm; I don’t need to compare myself to the girls in the magazines. I’ll never get my ass and thighs that small - and it no longer matters, because I know for sure that there are people who appreciate my assets. But beyond that, I’m digging my ass and thighs, and that means more than getting other people’s approval for them. But still - whatever you are, there is someone out there who finds that hot. Maybe there’s a market for me with a bag over my head.
Posted by Dacia at September 9, 2005 10:25 PM
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Honey, with a bag over your head we wouldn’t be able to dig your gorgeous face and awesome glasses. You’re beautiful in my estimation, each and every detail - with your mind standing out most of all. You get called fat…I get told I look like a starving Somalian (yes, really). What some people fail to get is that we’re both comfortable in our own skin, and that’s part of what makes ANYONE super hot.
Posted by: layla_x at September 10, 2005 01:01 AM
You are so bad (what you do) but so true in what you say. I cant help reading you.
Posted by: sss at September 10, 2005 03:05 AM
You might trying the Google translate function (www.google.com; ‘language tools’ link is to the right). It’ll help a little until a native Spanish speaker reads it.
Posted by: Viviane at September 10, 2005 09:40 AM
When I first started publishing parts of my novel on-line, I got some vicious hate mail from trolls. It toughened my skin a lot, which is how you have to be in the world.
BTW, a discussion came up on another site I have about the “target audience” for the book. Even though it’s about a 24 year-old woman waking up to the possibilities of sex and happiness in her life, I don’t know if it’s something a 20-something woman would respond to. I would appreciate your input on that, if you have some time. Thanks in advance.
Posted by: w. s. cross at September 10, 2005 11:02 AM
I just discovered your blog…and as my passport says I’m spanish, I just wanted to let you know that I don’t think your fat, pale nor ugly… and definitely it would be a shame that you wear a bag on your head… I can understand thay mistook waking for walking, but translating vixen for virgin… Anyway, bad taste, ignorance and rudeness are not related to the language you speak or your nationality… Glad to have found you, I’ll keep on reading! kisses!
Posted by: adult_ero at September 10, 2005 12:51 PM
First of all, that is not the most flatering picture of you. Second of all, jeez, they are all just jelaous. Booo.
Posted by: MrsLunatic at September 10, 2005 02:40 PM
I’m loving you more by the day and your response is golden. While such exposure makes you vulnerable to verbal attack and criticism, it says infinitely more about them. Let them wallow in their idiocy and shallowness. Morons.
This is not about developing a thick skin (how has hardness ever healed or helped anyone?), it is all about feeling at home in your own skin. And you do and you share that, and God fucking bless you for it. It’s a vital fuck you to our visually dominant world and therapeutic culture. In this instance, one begets the other, and both can kiss my ass.
Reaching the point of catharsis is a powerful one, and then nothing can stop you. Personally I love your body and your brain and wouldn’t have you any other way.
Walking Virgin though, that’s priceless. (as I go to check my own link….).
Posted by: magdelena at September 10, 2005 04:44 PM
I know it isn’t the most flattering picture of me, but its also shot with a fisheye lens and then photoshopped for the extra-freaky look, so scary is kinda the point. From a glance, it should be pretty obvious that the pic has been altered a bit… but whatever. Let them say what they say.
And I definitely don’t hold all Spanish-speakers accountable for this; to each their own.
Posted by: Dacia at September 10, 2005 07:48 PM
no lo comprende. Love the fish-eye pic, though.
Posted by: Keith at September 11, 2005 08:52 AM
What? So, if I’m hearing this correctly there seems to be a sigt issue among a certain blog’s readers.
Personally, I dig every last inch of you.
But then, I KNOW how cool you are. ;)
-G
Posted by: Garrison Steelle at September 11, 2005 03:54 PM
Vixen - I could give the finger to beauty culture all day…but there are definitely people who appreciate your assets nonetheless - and not just the glasses! As someone who lives in the US Southwest borderlands and has a baby who’s got some back - I can attest lots of spanish speakers ‘round here looove the booty.
Posted by: Gander at September 11, 2005 11:02 PM


