Writing and rawness

Writing is therapy. Keep with the pen….

I think it’s really brave of you to put this on your blog. To write about your sexuality and the things you have experienced takes a lot of guts - but your willingness to show emotional vulnerability (and risk personal attacks in return) shows true strength. Thank you.

For me, going with my gut about what to post and what not to post has usually worked, and when emotions are running high I write the post then leave it and re-evaluate (it IS the word of the month) the next morning or whatever and decide to post or not. I’ve taken some risks emotionally the past few months on my blog as you know, and mostly it’s not been a bad thing. A few assholes come out of the woodwork but usually there’s plenty of decent people to make the posts still worthwhile and strengthening.

I wish you luck in finding the happy medium. Personally I like your emotional posts because you really explore things, and I find I learn a lot from them for my own life. Speaking as a young adult librarian, teens like angsty novels because they help them feel like they’re not weird or alone in their feelings, plus it helps them pick up skills in how to deal or not to deal. Blogging can be quite similar.

I think your Blog is very interesting Dacia. It is educational, emotional and entertaining. When you write, in my opinion (don’t kill me for my opinion again) it helps you vent. It is good that you have people from different walks of life come and learn about what you want to share with them. Maybe you could use people’s opinions to help you further your studies and as well help you keep your positive thoughts. Support from others is a good way to stay postive. Keep your head up girl, you have made many friends here that support yea.

Openly blogging about my emotional shit is fairly hard for me to do. If it gets too hard for you, remember, you’re no obligated to J. Random reader like me.

I look forward to seeing what your re evaluation transforms you into.

Discussing personal emotional issues is a tough topic. I have recently gotten into heaps of trouble in my relationship for doing just that. Of course, I was discussing my emotional issues with a friend, and my girlfriend didn’t think that was appropriate at all. From my point of view, the more I talked about my issues and how I was feeling to other people, the better I felt about myself. I don’t know why, but expressing myself to other people has always been a form of self evaluation for me, since the thoughts are not just bouncing around in my own head, but actually bouncing of another person. My girlfriend seemes to think that all these emotions and issues should be dealt with between the two of us and no one else. I think that is fine for her, but it is really not working for me. I guess my point is that this is your blog. It should be a tool for you, not entertainment for the masses. Sure, if the entertainment part is a side effect, then all the better. But I think that first and foremost the blog should be something that helps you.

Here’s a message for anyone who says “of course sex ruins lives”: fuck ‘em! (err… or don’t)

Generalizations suck.

(Ha! Get it? Get it… you with me here people..? Irony…)

I notice something a little different from your observations. I am going to use the word maturity for want of a better word at the moment. The maturity is the process of evaluation I think.

I appreciate the honesty, I don’t see it as raw. I don’t see your vulnerability as you being a basket case, I tend to think you are a stronger person than I am, and I am not weak.

My esteem grows as you seem to take more and more emotional risk divulging yourself here, to both friends and strangers like me. I suspect your friends already know and aren’t surprised. Yet you should not be doing this for anyone other than yourself.

With as good as your writing is, you could write about cooking, the anatomy and biochemistry of sex, and insights into 19th century prostitution with the historian that also contributes here, and I’d read it and think I had learned something.

Follow your head and your heart, you won’t go wrong.

“I wonder if blogging my shit will kick the coping process further along, as it has in the past.”

I’ve got to say, that alone constitutes 90% of why I blog at all! Sometimes it’s a narcissitic process that other people enjoy reading. But it’s always for me, and it’s a process of self help and therapy I really don’t care to ever live without.

For myself, I sometimes just can’t get that in depth emotionally. It comes in spurts. And sometimes it’s that the emotions just can’t be shared.

Scared Bunny Blog – Yes, it’s offensive!

I comment when something you post inspires me to comment. I would hope that you only post something that inspires you personally no matter the content. I have seen a wide range of content some fun, some educational, some emotional, but all seems to be from you. I hope you never post to please readers and only post to please yourself.

Actually, I haven’t found anything interesting here in months. Your writing has taken a serious detour into an academic-feeling “everything is worth dissecting” territory that does not bode well for your future happiness. I think you should run away from the course your life seems to be taking, frankly. The world does not need to be saved from itself sexually, or rather— it can’t be, which might as well be the same thing. And I’m surprised by the number of people who say they like your blog on the one hand and then encourage you to “vent” on the other (to me, the sense of someone venting is death to my interest in what they have to say in a written forum). Perhaps the distinction is that there are certain people who enjoy reading your blog the way they would enjoy reading a diary (and so accept “venting”), but that is a different mental stance than the one in which one might read more “serious” (i.e., more considered) writing.