Damaged goods

Sure, it sucks, but i’m not sure if a cut is deserving of such emotion. A lot of people are WAY worse off than you. You’re allowed to feel sorry for yourself, but try not to be angry with the responses of others.

gee, I kind of have to agree with the above. I enjoy your blog…but it’s your, and your choice only to post. If you’re going to be so upset by the posts, all of which seem harmless and well intentioned…well then…don’t blog.

Dacia, you’ve experienced a trauma. You’re emotions both totally normal and totally Dacia. Take care of yourself, okay?

Dacia, I appreciate your candor. I love your ‘blog because you don’t sugar-coat anything; what you read is what you get, and worth quite a bit because of that.

Your feelings and the expression of them are completely valid. I think Jim from above needs to see blood gushing out of his cock so he can understand the experience a little. Also, people need to learn that even if their comments are well-intentioned it might not be possible for you to accept them as such at the moment. No point in them taking that personally. Ember’s right, you’ve been through trauma and the key now is doing what you need to feel better.

Heh - I almost posted an “OH MY GOD I’M SO SORRY” message, but then thought, what in the blue fuck is she gonna do with an apology from someone she’s never met? Now I know. Hee. I’d tell you to kiss yourself and make it better, but I don’t know anybody that limber.

I SO dont want to sound like psycho babble, however…the first thing that comes to mind is why this injury is so upsetting to you ? Granted, to sustain an injury , particularly in such a sensitive part of one’s anatomy is unpleasant to say the least..but you seem to have real, palpable anger..it often represents / sits in for some other issue..just my unsolicited two cents..I do like your blog….

I hope this won’t sound like another platitude… but I just wanted to agree with and reiterate your point that pretending anger doesn’t exist will not do any good. You (or I guess I should say “one”, if I really wanted to be grammatically correct) have to let yourself feel all that anger in order to really move on. I know you already know this. But I was nodding my head emphatically the whole time I read this post, so I felt like saying something to let you know how awesome it was.

The commentor you quote seems a wise individual.

Sometimes pain and anger can lead us to search for villains and victims where there are none.

Even though it may be more immediately satisfying to pinpoint one’s frustration in one direction rather than to generalize it towards the entire universe and cruel, cruel fate …

Sometimes bad things happen between good people.

“If you’re going to be so upset by the posts, all of which seem harmless and well intentioned…well then…don’t blog”

Mr. Kettle? Mr. Pot is on line one.

Hate the comments and rage away… Anyone who gives a rat’s ass will be cool with it. And anyone who isn’t hasn’t yet understood that it’s a big part of what makes your blog worth reading.

Offering a trite phrase feels completely inadequate anyway… you just figure it’s what you’re supposed to do. Feh. I should have known anyone who gravitates towards piratehood really can’t be a platitude person.

Yeow, just catching up. My wife had the same thing happen years ago and I still catch her with her little makeup mirror checking herself out down below. It was a huge shock to her and she was very angry about it and every now and then she brings it up. The tear was not huge but it bleed a lot and for a long time. She is still self concious about it today since it did change how her labia looks. I barely notice but to her it is a big thing. Depending on how you feel about your own perfection down there you may want to get a doctor to look at it to insure it heals perfectly so you don’t worry about it in the future. My wife did not give it a second thought and now wishes she did.

I guess wanting to see everyone before you left town for a couple of months, and having your plans foiled almost immediately would be upsetting. And the particular wound, to a sexual organ, when you have committed your life to the study and practice of sex would be threatening beyond most people’s belief.

I also guess I’d want my friends with me, reassuring me, and loving me as best they could. It’s OK to be angry, and scared. I’ll take the anger, let it go.

Platitudes is all I can give you. You have my sympathy, I cannot empathize, given the wound. I have had other wounds, debilitating wounds, and I can empathize there. I can’t fix your wound. I can’t even make chicken noodle soup, or a chocolate cake and bring it over. Imagine how helpless that makes the people who do care about you. If there’s anything I can do to help you, please do let me know right away.

Heal quickly and let us know how things are going. I know you feel alone. I may not be there, but through this venue, I have come to need you. It’s 3 am, and I have an 8 am meeting. My best to you.

ive read your post twice now, and just want to say a few words. as someone who loves to have his hand up a woman’s pussy, i want to share my own thoughts here. (its MY comment, right?)

perhaps it didnt quite happen the way it reads. cause i know, if i pulled MY fingers out of a woman and she was bleeding like that, i would instantly ask her if she was ok… if she knew she had her period (which is what i would have first assumed)… then, when realizing it wasnt her period, i would have moved on to the next step- that is, moving into “this is an accident that needs to be dealt with” mode. NOT go out for some food.

now, ive met todd before at jeffersons, and i have nothing against him. this is NOT a rant against todd. i just want to say that i would have reacted quite differently. as far as i can tell, no one has talked about this aspect of it… so i wanted to put it out. on the other hand, perhaps there was a lot of other dialog that occured between you two, that you simply didnt include in your post.

i can relate to the woman who suggested that guy think about blood coming out of his dick. blood can be freaky anywhere from your own body, and particularly when its coming from places like your genitals, asshole, or nipples.

your feelings are your feelings. and your blog is your blog.

and (last thought, i promise), on the other hand, you ARE throwing it all out to the public, so you should always expect all sorts of comments to come back. but you already knew that one, right?

peace, luv & understanding…

Peace and good vibes to you dacia - keep on. That’s all. :)

You are who you are and that’s why we love to read your blog.
I, much like a poster above, initially slipped into an “oh my god, I’m sooo sorry” mode of thought, but then realized better of it. I meant no harm in my response to your injury, and we all know you understand that.
Voicing anger as well as happiness is part of blogging and the ones commenting on this post who seem to think otherwise apparently don’t understand when you want/need to let something out, it’s best to find a forum to do so. For yourself and many others that forum is a blog. It lends to anonymity, allowing you to voice whatever rage you wish at a world of people you don’t know (and, some you do), but it also permits a friendship and dialogue that, in some cases, is freer than personal conversation. In other words, voice what you want! I’ll be happy to come back to read it. (Not that you need mine, or any other prat’s permission to do so…)

The point I was trying to make about platitudes and seeming inadequacy of people’s comments is that in an incident like this one, no words, no matter what they are, seem right because the person who says them cannot really be as sorry as I am.

I don’t know this Todd and as Monty pointed out above there might have been more dialog between the two of you that you did not post. However given what you did post, Todd seems to be quite the insensitive guy. I’ve learned to watch for how people around me, people i call friends, act during accidents or emergencies, what they do in such situations tells you a great deal about their character.

I don’t know this Todd and as Monty pointed out above there might have been more dialog between the two of you that you did not post. However given what you did post, Todd seems to be quite the insensitive guy. I’ve learned to watch out people around me, people i call friends, act during accidents or emergencies, what they do in such situations tells you a great deal about their character.