Freedom is slavery

I think I have a similar mindset, but I’ve managed to pull off a (slightly) typical career path. Of course, my profession is peopled with fairly liberal women, who love the same sorts of things I do. That makes for a fairly peaceful existance.

Though I must admit to being slightly envious. I think I could pick up your lifestyle with a great deal of thankfulness right now.

Freedom is the ability to exchange one set of chains for another. Everything we do, even in the traditional sense, contains risks we too often don’t care to acknowledge. The corporate 9-5 world holds no more guarantees than that of the professional sex worker, merely a different illusion. You ride the train to the end of the tracks and then you buy another ticket.

-G

Dacia, Dig your blog today. Very nice thoughts here. I think reflection is always a good thing unless it turns into some kind of mental navel gazing. At some point you’ll just press ahead with whatever seems right to you. It’s clear that you’ve already made a bold statement with your life. As a new admirer, I’d say that’s an awfully damn cool statement you’ve made. I for one am envious, though I doubt I’d have the courage to do what you’ve done. I have this little fortune cookie quote pinned up to my desk that says, “It is the truest valor to dare to live.” I hope to live up to this quote someday. Sounds like you are already doing it. As for not being a sex worker forever, my understanding is that escorts, etc. can make about the same as lawyers. Least that’s what the rates around here are like. Seems like a savy person could make some investments that might provide for financial independence at some point. Then, fuck the 9-5 bullshit. I’ve hated my day jobs with a passion, with few exceptions. I remember my stepdad saying one time (the dirty old fuck), “the only good job is a blowjob.”- perhaps an old folk saying? But, hey maybe there is some dream job out there waiting for you. To the rest of us though, it sounds like you already have it :-) yrs, Paul

Seems you’re looking at this through a way too binary lens: I don’t work 9-to-5, not even close, and I’m totally, like, mainstream capitalist contributor, or whatever. If you’re smart and arrayed with talents, which you clearly are, you can work it any damn way you want. (BTW, dig the 1984 reference. I’ve been reading it and it’s been blowing my mind. Can’t believe I hadn’t gotten around to it earlier. Seems to me as much a critique of the human mind as of social and political structures.)

The only advice I would give is don’t become a cliche.

Capable people will always land on their feet. With that in mind, the whole world is open to you!

Best, g

“…as a photographer pointed out to me recently, I’m not getting any younger.”

Do the Bunny Yeager thing and move behind the camera. Learn to take the photos. You can do that until you’re on your deathbed.

With your experience, education, and motivation I can really picture you traveling around, educating people coughinTX&othersupressedstates*cough about sex!! :)

Save money now. Avoid debt (pay cash for everything). Talk to a financial advisor about what would be neccesary to retire in twenty years - probably not as much as you think. I know a woman who retired set for life after 15 years of dancing. I’m not as intrepid, but I’ve used sex work to pay cash for my house and set myself up in a low-cost lifestyle that could be maintained with very little income. Of course, then I went and got a vehicle loan and now life is more expensive. :(

You’re right, you’ve got a very untraditional life/job/etc. However, your amazing sexiness aside - You’re a brilliant writer. I really believe you could make a living doing what you already do. Your blog is already very widely read. I don’t doubt that most of your readers would be willing to pay a small subscription fee. This may sound silly, but you’re like a real-life Carrie from Sex and the City. Only more interesting. Become a syndicated columnist! Write a book! Put together a book of your best blog entries! I know I’d buy it…

I think you are right on this one, Dacia. just don’t worry about it - there is really very little you can do to prevent this from happening anyway.

Just enjoy being free now - and remember that most people never are, even for a few moments. So don’t worry about losing what you have - just enjoy it while you have it.