« One girl latex army | Main | Uncrossed legs »
Backwards, but not wrong
May 06, 2005
I have a fair number of interpersonal skills along with a healthy dose of comfort in my own skin. This is perhaps best evidenced by the fact that I’m often naked with people very soon after I’ve met them (in both professional and personal contexts). It’s a good way to get to know people – well, in my book anyway. But my life is weird, so don’t take my word for it.
I have a dinner date this weekend. Like, one where I’ll be wearing pants (well, maybe a skirt). My best physical assets will be covered, while my brain will be on the loose. This thought makes pictures of Krang dance through my head, but I promise that my grey matter is hotter. And not evil. Usually.
Anyway, this date I’m going on, it’s sort of a first date – sort of. Except that upon meeting this particular gentleman a week ago, I got to see him in very little clothing on stage and he got to see me in very little clothing rolling around in fake blood. Then we made out backstage. Then I took him home and we made with the fucking.
This is probably one of those “don’t try this at home” things, but I’m kind of at a point where I’m feeling like, fuck it, I don’t give a shit. I don’t want to be a total dick about it, but most people’s dating rules just don’t apply to me. If I try to apply their rules to my life I look like a failure or a weirdo. I’d prefer not use someone else’s eyes to look at my life, I’d much rather stick with my own perspective, believe in my own relevance.
So, I’ll try out this recipe and see what: get naked first, ask questions later.
Posted by Dacia at May 6, 2005 03:22 AM
Trackback Pings
TrackBack URL for this entry:
http://www.wakingvixen.com/cgi-bin/mt-tb.cgi/288
Listed below are links to weblogs that reference Backwards, but not wrong:
» ejaculation from Jane
paris hilton sex paris hilton sex paris hilton sex nude [Read More]
Tracked on April 16, 2006 10:48 AM
» daddy yankee mp3 from daddy yankee mp3
ace of base mp3 tina turner mp3 michael jackson mp3 greenday mp3 pump it mp3 pump it mp3 [Read More]
Tracked on April 29, 2006 12:40 PM
Comments
If it works for you, then use it! :-) When Harry and I got together it was totally new for him to have sex with someone so soon after meeting in person. For me it wasn’t such a new thing. The fact that we talked online for a few months before made it seem like we practically married before sex for me. Ha ha. Society’s rules are a-changing, even if people don’t see it or admit it yet. I think were at the very start of a new age socially, which is why the old guard of conservatism is fighting so hard.
Posted by: Nadia at May 6, 2005 07:46 AM
Dacia, when I first met my wife, she was tipsy and horny, and started flirting with me to make her female friend/crush jealous. I was at the tail-end of a long-distance poly relationship, and I didn’t tell her that it was on its last legs. We went home, called the next day, and started fucking and doing S/M right away, because we were both horny.
Then she fell in love with me. Then I fell in love with her. Then we bought a house in the burbs and had a kid, and we blinked and it was our fifth anniversary.
I think lots of people think you shouldn’t get to know your NSA hookups because they find it slightly embarrasing to relate to people they’ve had NSA sex with in any other way. That betrays a shame about NSA sex that probably means they shouldn’t be having it. I doubt you feel that way, so that rule does not apply to you. You and this guy hooked up and fucked. If neither of you thinks there’s anything wrong with that, then it should help, rather than hurt, the process of getting to know him.
Keep goin’ on and feelin’ strong.
Posted by: Thomas at May 6, 2005 11:03 AM
NSA?
Posted by: tony Comstock at May 6, 2005 02:23 PM
NSA = no strings attached
Posted by: Dacia at May 6, 2005 02:25 PM
It’s certainly interesting to have contructed a sexual life that has little or nothing to do with the conventions of dating.
I have noticed that it relieves the sexual tension one might have on a “normal” date. Will a date end with a kiss? Will we have sex on this date, or a future date, or ever?
Let it happen as it happens. There’s sex a-plenty in my life: there’s no pressure.
Posted by: Jefferson at May 7, 2005 11:00 AM
C. and I fucked on our first date. Of course, that relationship turned out differently than I’d thought, but not because of the sex early on. We had wild crazy sex and in the midst of it all we fell in love. People can take their societal norms and shove them up their collective asses.
Posted by: Belle at May 9, 2005 04:35 PM
