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I am the towel girl, goo goo goo joob
August 21, 2004
I spent a good chunk of yesterday afternoon at a porn shoot, which in my opinion is a pretty terrific way to spend a Friday afternoon. Although the reason I was there was basically so that I could write an “on set” piece, this meant that all I was supposed to do was be observant. I am a bit of a busy bee and I like to feel helpful, so I decided that I would do whatever needed to be done, which basically meant that I had to be prepared with condoms, lube and towels (for wiping off the gleaming sex sweat).
It was good times all around. I think we did a good job of making the set relaxed but professional and our performers had a good time. There was a lot of laughter and dick jokes, which are good for (almost) any occasion.
As we deliberated over what positions we’d like to see and how the male talent should be more aggressive without being meaner, I thought – wow. There are plenty of people who will never feel comfortable enough to talk about sex as frankly as I do on a daily basis, and people who will never get to watch other people have sex live in front of them (forget being paid to do so on a porn set). I’m pretty privileged to have all that.
But, yesterday I was also reminded very acutely that most people don’t see that as a privilege. As I was on my way out the door, my ex called, and when I told him where I was going he said, “You have a college degree. Do something in your field. You’re too good for porn.” Sigh. I love the porn, and I am doing something in my field right now, plus I’m starting a master’s degree in two weeks. These are all my “fields.” Why am I getting defensive?
Posted by Dacia at August 21, 2004 08:31 PM
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