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On being "real"
October 07, 2004
The issue of realness has come up on several sex and escorting blogs: A NY Escorts Confessions and Postmodern Courtesan most recently, but I recall the hunt for Belle de Jour last spring and I’m sure others have gotten the baffling comments or emails that question the veracity of the writer.
I too have gotten these emails and comments, usually written in a dismissive tone of “well, that is hot but too bad you made it all up.” Truth is much stranger and often more interesting anyway.
It’s puzzling. Maybe the average Joe (or Josephine!) reading sex workers’ or sluts’ blogs feels so far removed from the experiences of the writer that they just can’t conceive of a person existing in a world full of sexual experiences, paid or otherwise.
Trying to negate or deny my truths entirely is certainly an interesting way to go about critiquing my lifestyle. Usually I can conjure up some snappy and well-thought out responses to other forms of critique and questions about my lifestyle, but when I’m accused of not even being real - the best response I can muster is “I am too real!”
Posted by Dacia at October 7, 2004 12:44 PM
