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Cock negative
April 09, 2005
How many times have I heard someone say that cocks are ugly? Too goddamn many.
Sometimes the ugly cock comments are in the context of sexual situations and the implication is that cocks aren’t nice to look at but they are useful. Other times its in the context of visual culture - cocks don’t make for pretty art.
This is stupid, body-phobic bullshit of the first order. Furthermore, it’s linked to a bigger, more interesting thing: in this patriarchal, cock-centric society, there really isn’t enough loving attention paid to the cock. Before this seems like a preposterous statement, let me elaborate a little. Some may argue (and not without potent fuel) that the entire sex industry is built around the desires of the cock, that its an industry that kow-tows to the cock. And while in many respects this is certainly, irrepealably true - what’s happening mostly is more along the lines of “Is that a wallet in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?”
I’m not exempt from this - I’m a sex worker, for fuck’s sake. But I wonder a lot about it, the old “battle of the sexes” and the way it gets amped up in the realm of commercial sex. There’s a lot of conversation about and support for (and sometimes gritty battles) women who are involved in sex work, but other than your basic forums for dudes to exchange info, give each other advice and gossip about providers, there aren’t places where men can go for support and honest conversation about sexuality without commercialism getting wrapped up in it all.
But this isn’t just about sex work - though that’s the easiest and clearest example of what I’m talking about. This is about cultural swing, feminism, men and women. It’s about the negativity about cock - the ways that cock is contained and avenues for conversation (not about dick-growing pills) about sexuality are not opened to men. Because: cocks are ugly, men rule the world anyway, and there are plenty of outlets for male sexuality.
Posted by Dacia at April 9, 2005 05:20 PM
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